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Widowed: He’s Pushing Up a Daisy

March 23, 2024 By Barbara Falconer Newhall

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Widowed: He’s pushing up a daisy — just one — at Cypress Lawn Memorial Park in Colma, California. Photos by Barbara Newhall

I checked in on Jon the other day and found him right where we’d left him. He was pushing up a daisy. Just one.

Jon’s grave is in the shade of a cypress tree, which is why just one.

Across the way where the sun shines all day long, masses of the homely white blossoms speckled the lawn, heads ducked to stay clear of the lawnmower’s blade.

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Daisies pushing up in the lawn at Cypress Lawn.

Call it daisy, erigeron or fleabane, it’s no bigger than a dime and a common wildflower native to California. It’ll grow all over your yard if you let it.

Some people pull it out. Try to. Others smile and let it stay. No matter what you do, this homebody will stick around. It’ll be in your yard, keeping you company till you downsize and move to another neighborhood. Maybe this one.

More thoughts on the flora at Cypress Lawn Memorial Park at “There’s a Dandelion Growing on My Grave.”  More about those vegetables on Jon’s grave at “I’ve Been Widowed Two Years. Now What?”

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Widowed: He’s pushing up a daisy. Erigeron — also known as fleabane because of its odor — is a ubiquitous, some say pesky, California native. They looked great sprinkled on the lawn at Cypress Lawn Memorial Park the other day.

Filed Under: My Rocky Spiritual Journey, Widowed

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  1. ginger says

    March 25, 2024 at 3:22 am

    that’s jon, subtle and funny.

    • Barbara Falconer Newhall says

      March 25, 2024 at 12:40 pm

      Good to know you got the joke — and that Jon would have. See my comment today to Oakland Tribber Bill Mann.

  2. Bill Mann says

    March 24, 2024 at 12:28 pm

    Your usual worthwhile, graceful posting. Jon was one lucky guy!

    • Barbara Falconer Newhall says

      March 25, 2024 at 12:39 pm

      When the priest who married us asked what I saw in Jon, I said, “He makes me laugh.” As soon as I said that, I was embarrassed at what seemed like a shallow response. But all these years later, I’m thinking laughing together signals a nice meeting of the minds. We were both lucky.

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