"Wrestling with God" book with Barbara Falconer Newhall

Wrestling with God: Stories of Doubt and Faith

"Any seeker of any faith will be blessed to read the words of this fine author and observer."

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My Ever-Changing Family

Our family shrinks and grows. People die. People get born. People get mad and won't talk to you for a while. Kids grow up and find partners of their own, and pretty soon there are brand-new in-laws.

I’m Thankful for Friends, Family, Pumpkin Pie and — It’s a Girl!

I'm thankful as Christina Newhall takes stuffing from 2013 Thanksgiving turkey. Dad Jon helps. Photo by Barbara Newhall

Three of the things I’m thankful for: Two cooks and lots of stuffing. Photo by Barbara Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

Here’s what I’m thankful for this Thanksgiving season.

One. Decades and decades of friends and family. I’ve had so many people to love over the years. Some of those people will be at our house on Thanksgiving.

Two. Coming soon in February — yet another person to love. Our [Read more…]


She’s Shaved Her Head Bald — Is Our Daughter Headed for the Dark Side?

A pretty girl, Christina Newhall, has shaved off all her hair and is still pretty. Photo by Tim Beedle

Christina, smiling at us from cyberspace. Tim Beedle photo

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

“Hey, Barbara. Come look. Christina’s bald.”


“Yes, bald. Her picture’s on Facebook.”

I dashed upstairs. I usually do a slow trudge up the stairs when Jon invites me to look at something he’s found on the Internet. Dutifully, I coo at the baby elephant or hiss at the mouthy politico, then I trot back downstairs to my writing room or the kitchen.

Not this time. This was an emergency. I sped up the stairs. Our 32-year-old [Read more…]


The Home Office Blues

A 1986 home office with computer, crib, toddler and cat. Photo by Barbara Newhall

Our 1986 home office complete with kids, crib, rocking chair, changing table, cat — and computers. Photo by Barbara Newhall

This old Oakland Tribune column is riddled with late-20th-century artifacts: videocassettes, an Apple desktop, an 8086 microprocessor, He-Man toys, a long-forgotten computer game called Choplifter, and a lone 60-watt light bulb.

By Barbara Falconer Newhall, The Oakland Tribune, June 8, 1987

Christina, 3, has the best room in the house, the one with the view of Mount Tamalpais.

At least, it used to be Christina’s room. Now, she has just the dim, windowless half of it. The part with the view belongs to our home office. [Read more…]


The Center of the Universe Lives at Our House

A newborn baby, a few weeks old, is held by his adoring parents. Barbara Newhall Photo

He’s only a few weeks old, but he has two full-grown adults wrapped around his little finger. Barbara Newhall Photo

Note: Our oldest kid is about to have a kid of his own. This heads-up is for him.

By Barbara Falconer Newhall, The Oakland Tribune, June 28, 1987  

Jon and I have not made eye contact since we went out for dinner the other night. We have not exchanged more than three complete sentences in as many days. There just isn’t time.

Does this mean we are headed for the divorce courts? [Read more…]


Our No TV Week — The Kids Survived, but Did I?

A lively 7-year-old boy who has climbed up in an oak tree. He needs no TV to have fun. Photo by Barbara Newhall

Playing. Photo by Barbara Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall, The Oakland Tribune, Nov. 8, 1987

“I don’t have time to play,” Peter howled. Peter had put in a long, hard day at day camp. He wanted his toys.

“I want to play. I need to play,” he complained. “But I know that the TV will go on at 4:30 and it will distract me from my playing.” [Read more…]