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In Judge Harbin-Forte’s Courtroom — Where Jury Duty Is an Exercise in Mindfulness

A long line of people waiting to enter the Superior Court of California, County of Alameda, Hayward Hall of Justice, 24405 Amador Street, Hayward, CA. Photo by BF Newhall

A long line of people, many of them prospective jurors, waited to enter the Superior Court of California building in Hayward at 9 a.m. on a Monday morning. Photo by BF Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

Tired of multitasking? Want to get away from Facebook, your cell phone, your boss, and that squeaky faucet that needs fixing? Get yourself called up for jury duty.

Want to be in a place where one person talks at a time, nobody interrupts, and everybody listens? Try Judge Brenda Harbin-Forte’s courtroom at the Hayward, California, Hall of Justice during jury selection.

Want to practice mindfulness – being fully present and aware of the here and now and nothing else? Spend a couple of days in a context — a culture — where the thing to do is listen quietly to what other people have to say.

Modern brick and concrete facade of the Hayward Hall of Justice, Superior Court of California, County of Alameda, 24405 Amador Street, Hayward, Photo by BF Newhall A

The Hayward Hall of Justice, Superior Court of California, County of Alameda. Photo by BF Newhall

In Judge Harbin-Forte’s courtroom, your job as a prospective juror is to pay attention and listen carefully to other prospective jurors as they answer questions about their life experiences –:

The potential juror whose father was killed in a hit-and-run accident. The one whose mother was struck by a cement truck and is still in pain. The woman who had three back surgeries. And the jock who, fearful of losing his scholarship, played college football despite a painful knee injury.

The Courtroom as Zendo

It’s a setting as quiet and orderly as a Zendo, and the jury duty experience is an exercise in mindfulness. There are no distractions. Cellphone use is not allowed here. Neither is eating or smoking. And, while the court is in session, there’s absolutely no reading, no texting, no googling, no conversation.

You are to pay attention in Judge Harbin-Forte’s courtroom. The mind is to be alert and focused, starting right now, with jury selection. No daydreaming. No thoughts of yesterday or tomorrow. The judge’s instructions – the law – require you to pay attention.

I was not selected as a juror, so I was excused on the second day, as soon as a jury was empaneled. But those two half-days were a nice little vacation for me – from home, work and the computer keyboard.

It was relaxing. So nice to be allowed – required – to pay attention to just one thing at a time.

Unlike the cluttered pages of Huffington Post, or the antic graphics of “The Colbert Report,” or our kitchen TV screen tuned to CNN with its multiple scrolling messages and talking heads drowning each other out – one and only one person at a time was permitted to voice his or her thoughts in Judge Harbin-Forte’s courtroom.

Minding My Manners in Scottville, Michigan

Life should be more like this, I thought. This is civilized. This is a set of norms I’ve experienced only rarely since I sat in my Aunt Ruth’s living room in Scottville, Michigan, one afternoon many decades ago. My nonagenarian grandmother was there; so was a sprinkling of farm-bred aunts and uncles.

I’d flown in from California, where my very coastal young friends were in the habit of getting together to talk – all at once.

My relatives, on the other hand, had seated themselves, not in several small conversation clumps like my talky friends, but around the periphery of the room. Everyone could see and hear

David and Ruth Falconer of Scotville, MI, and their 7 childen ca 1935. Photo by Falconer

My Scottville grandparents with their seven childen, around 1935. Photo by Ludington Studio. Used by permission.

everyone else, and no one seemed to be in a conversational rush. One person spoke at a time, and if something funny happened to be said, there was time to laugh before the next person spoke.

Of course, one might argue that retired Midwestern farm folks are not so much laconic as short on material. Aside from fishing and eating pie, there’s not much to do, let alone talk about, in Scottville, Michigan. Somehow you’ve got to make your stories last  till suppertime.

A Nearly Forgotten Social Skill

Truth is, I think my country aunts and uncles were on to something.

My friend Jake – a super sophisticated LA type who advises big political muckety-mucks – once gave me some advice to take along on the promotion circuit that’s coming up for my book, Wrestling with God. When I’m being interviewed, he said, listen to the question. Give it my full attention; don’t get caught up in preparing an answer while the question is still being asked.

And then, before speaking, take a couple of seconds to organize my thoughts. What is it that I truly want to say?

Judge Harbin-Forte, my Aunt Ruth, my friend Jake – the message is the same. Do I really want to load the dishwasher, talk to Jon, watch “So You Think You Can Dance,” and wipe the chicken grease off the floor all at the same time?

Or would I like to see how it feels to do one thing at a time? Maybe, for example, keep quiet and listen to somebody else talk until they’ve actually finished saying what they have to say.

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Copy of a jury duty summons and juror badge superior court of california. Photo by BF Newhall

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  1. Dee Myers says:

    Amen, Barbara. The noise and clutter of daily life, multitasking, using our “devices” is overwhelming at times. I think we could practice this mindfulness without doing jury duty, but I’m glad jury selection inspired you.

    • Barbara Falconer Newhall says:

      Dee, True. There are probably a lot easier ways to get away from it all without getting summoned for jury duty.

  2. You know you’re doing it wrong when the thought of 2 days in a courtroom sounds so very, very appealing – though in this case I blame the skill of the writer for making it sound so good. I need some of that one-track-mind discipline. Love this, Barbara –
    Nancy

  3. sue watson says:

    Very interesting. A small group here call themselves “The Sippers”. We meet a couple of times a month. At first we “sip” – lemonade, ice tea or wine. Then we sit and have a conversation. The hostess puts out the topic. The purpose is to have one person talk and the others listen. We felt listening was becoming a lost art. Also, at our age, so many social situations are in a setting where it is difficult to hear well enough to listen and carry on a conversation. We all look forward to these gatherings. Sue

    • Barbara Falconer Newhall says:

      That’s brilliant. A bunch of people deciding not to all talk at once. And what a great name for yourselves — one sip of tea at a time, one thought at a time.

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