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Wrestling with God: Stories of Doubt and Faith

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No to Bride Barbie — Yes to a Real-Life Wedding

At age 7, Christina preferred a tug of war to playing with her Bride Barbie. Photo by Barbara Newhall

Christina left her Bride Barbie at home to join a tug of war. Photo by Barbara Newhall

MY DAUGHTER CHRISTINA will be marrying in May. She’s a grown-up woman now, making plans to spend her days with a truly good man. People who knew Christina as a little kid might be surprised to hear that there will be an actual wedding, complete with the traditional white wedding gown, champagne, music, flowers, moonlight and a multi-tiered wedding cake.

As a girl Christina wasn’t much for dressing up — neither herself nor her Barbie Doll. Girly stuff bored my daughter. She preferred playing Nintendo with her big brother and his guy friends. Nonetheless, when May rolls around Christina will be letting loose with her inner romantic: friends, family and groom will be treated to a sweet, old-fashioned wedding and a — beautiful — bride.

Some things  haven’t changed, however. Christina still likes computer games. And so does her husband-to-be.

Here’s a story I once wrote about the seven-year-old Christina and [Read more…]


When the Bride Doesn’t Wear White — And Neither Does Anyone Else

Women wearing colorful saris at an India wedding in the San Francisco Bay Area. Photos by BF Newhall

A June wedding in the San Francisco Bay Area. Photos by BF Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

The bride wore red. And violet. And cerise. And gold.

It was an Indian wedding with all the trimmings — drums, gongs, garlands, priestly [Read more…]


The Mother-of-the-Groom Diaries — Am I Too Old for Splashy Earrings?

A woman wearing a purple V-necked jersey gown with rhinestone embellishment. Photo by BF Newhall

This gown needs earrings. Big, blingy, look-at-me  earrings. Photos by BF Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

The long dress I was planning to wear to my son’s wedding needed earrings. Not [Read more…]


My Killer Shoes — Brought Down to Size by Those Four-and-a-Half-Inch Heels

Silver satin  1/2 inch high shoes with clear stone pave straps at Nordstrom $129.95. Photo by BF Newhall.

The Killer Shoes: Silver satin with with 4 1/2-inch heels and a funky zipper up the back. By Glint, at Nordstrom, $129.95. Photo by BF Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

Jon picked out his wedding attire in a half hour. I’ve devoted several all-day shopping trips to my wedding outfit and I’m still not done.

Jon feels sorry for me. All that shopping. So many trips to the mall. So many trips [Read more…]


A Case of the Human Condition: My (Awesome) Zumba Body

zumba class in action. Photo by BF Newhall

That’s me on the left. Photo by BF Newhall

By Barbara Falconer Newhall

Trying on bras at Nordstrom the other day, the truth was all too apparent. Too much flesh here. Too much skin there. Some of it fit into the bra. A lot of it didn’t. I felt terrible about my body.

Lucky for my body image, however, I went straight from lingerie shopping to my Zumba class. A few warm-ups here, a few stretches there, a little grapevine, and I was feeling great. So was my body. It reminded me that it can jump. It can move with the beat. It can cumbia. And yes, those hips can wiggle.

For a more extensive treatment of  my relationship with my undergarments, see my Mad Men girdle story.